I know…feeling crappy isn’t usually synonymous with ‘good news’ and when you’re in the middle of it, looking on the bright side of things might make you want to puke. I totally get it. And believe me, I don’t want to be the obnoxious cheerful type telling you that it will all be over soon, or that things will get better, because I’ve been in that dark hole, and the last thing you want to hear is someone telling you over and over again that it’ll all be okay….even if it’s true.
What I do want to share with you is that hanging out on the dark side of things for a while can initiate a pretty brilliant transformation. A lot of magic happens in the dark….budding butterflies, sprouting seeds, ideas that have yet to see the light of day, and of course, baby making, (both in the womb and prior…wink, wink).
My point is this: that black hole that you might visit from time to time isn’t at the bottom of a pit—it’s a passageway that’s leading you somewhere. It’s guiding you toward a stronger, wiser, more compassionate version of yourself. That despair you feel? Its called evolution, baby, and you’ve got to go through it in order to see what’s waiting for you on the other side.
So if you find yourself feeling like you’re stuck at the bottom of a pit, start digging. Ask yourself what’s going on here? Is there something that needs to be released or something that needs to be awakened? What do you need to learn from all of this, and how can you speed up the process of understanding so you can step back into the light of day?
And if you’re in it, like, right now? Don’t feel guilty for it. Give yourself time. Let yourself be angry. Cave into the confusion. Allow yourself to be swallowed up by sadness. And be there for as long as it takes, because you’re in a process of growth, and growth takes time and darkness, and sometimes a lot of tears because you’ve got to release in order to make space for something new.
Don’t shy away from the dark. Jump in; cozy up to it, and start loving yourself no matter where you are, because you’re right where you need to be.
Oh, and get ready, because once you resurface, you are gonna shine brighter than you ever thought possible.
This post originally appeared on my first blog, www.emilyparkinsonperry.com on April 2, 2015.