We’ve all been there—the dreaded no-man’s land—the space in between; neither here nor there.
Waiting for the call…sorting out emotions…planning the next move… all the waiting, wondering and wandering can sometimes feel unbearable, but here’s the thing about not-knowing what’s next: It usually precedes something big.
You know that moment at the very top of a roller coaster, after you’ve slowly climbed the ascent and you’re about to go down—there’s this pause—and you want to go, but you don’t, but you do…and it’s exciting and scary and before you know it you’ve slipped into the ride of your life?
Well, sometimes the ‘in between’ can feel like that; and the waiting is there because you need a moment to pause, gather yourself, and get clear so that you can finally exhale, release, and let go as you give into the big ride. It’s okay to be in between. In fact, it’s essential for what’s coming up next. If you’re about to enter a new phase, you need some time to get clear about what you want and where you’re going.
Observe your breath for a moment; notice that there’s a pause at the top of an inhale, just before the breath turns around to release and there’s also a pause at the bottom of an exhale, just before the breath turns around to draw in again. Those tiny moments of suspension are the gateways to the energy that sustains everything—they offer you a glimpse into your true self, and act as a reminder to tune into your heart’s desire. It’s hard to get clear about what you want when you’re going, going, going, so those little moments of ‘in between’ give you the time you need to listen to yourself; time to be alone—all one. It’s a time to gather yourself—all the parts of yourself—so you can unite and proceed with clarity and poise.
For the next few days, look for opportunities to practice being ‘in between’, even if it’s as tiny as the wait at a stoplight. Use those tiny moments to practice being okay with the wait. You’ll soon recognize that being still doesn’t have to be uncomfortable; that it can be a welcome reprieve from constant activity. Because when things get moving again, you’ll be glad you took the time….and also, because sometimes the breathless suspension is the best part of the ride.