A Note to Parents: Because You’re Worth It

I totally get it. I know that you are busy. I know that it’s pushing it to get a luxurious ten minute shower, let alone pursue your passion, but let me put a little spin on the matter:

When it comes to your children, what you do is way more important than what you say.

You can tell your kids all day long how important it is to love themselves, follow their passion, and pursue their dreams, but if they don’t see you doing it, then all that talk is well….just talk. And I know that it’s hard to justify pursuing your passion when you’re trying to help your kids pursue theirs, but what if you looked at it in a new way? Instead of seeing it as time you take away, what if you see it as something  you give?

What if you do it for them?

Take time for yourself for them.
Follow your dream for them.
Accomplish your goals for them.

And what if that’s not the way you were taught? What if your own parents put everything aside and dropped off their passions for the sake of yours?

Do it for them, too.
And for their parents, and theirs.

Being a parent isn’t about cutting out the essence of you. You’re still creative, smart, passionate and beautiful, and you have unique ways of expressing those gifts. You don’t have to choose being a parent over self-expression; you can have both.

Start small if you have to.

Daydream everyday; like it’s your job.
Instead of doing dishes, do yoga.
Work on your novel while the kiddo’s take swim class.
Pull out the paints for them and for you.
Drop ‘em off at dance, and then go dancing.

Whatever feeds you, will feed them also.

You know why?

Because the commitment you make to yourself will show them how important it is to commit to themselves. And because your drive, your desire, and your passion for what you love, will show them how to love and nurture their own unique gifts and talents.

Fill your cup, so they know what it looks like to fill their own.

Do it for them.
And do it for you.

Because they’re worth it, and so are you.

notetoparents

4 thoughts on “A Note to Parents: Because You’re Worth It

  1. I love all of your posts, especially this one! It’s such a good reminder to let go of my mother guilt when I take time to do things that I enjoy and to do them all by myself. I’m a better person when I take the time to do that (usually 🙂 and my family benefits from that. I just listened to Elizabeth Gilbert’s podcast, Magic Lessons about this very topic!
    Keep up the good work!

    • Tiffany,

      I absolutely adore you. Your whole family is so good about getting out and doing the things that you love–I love that about all of you. Thank you so much for your kind words, it always means so much to know that these posts help in some small way. Thanks for the tip on Elizabeth Gilbert’s podcast…I’m waiting anxiously for her new book; in the meantime, I’ll check out the podcast. Thanks again sweet girl!

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