Have you ever noticed that when you buy a new car, or a friend buys a new car, suddenly you see that same car everywhere you go? It’s like the moment you start to pay attention to it; it pops up everywhere you look.
This is how awareness works. What you pay attention to becomes bigger—it fills up more space and becomes a larger part of your reality. This is good news and bad news, depending on where you place your attention. The good news is that this gives you the power to attract the situations and experiences that you want to show up in your life—yes, the power of your awareness can change external events! The bad news is that when you’re unconsciously throwing around a lot of negative dialogue and feelings, then your experiences will reflect that negative energy.
When you look in the mirror, do you zoom in on all of your beautiful qualities or do you zoom in on what you don’t like?
When you perceive your life, do you focus on all the positives or do you focus on what’s not working so well?
When you think about your goals and aspirations, do you feel excited about the challenge or overwhelmed by it all?
This isn’t another ‘half glass full’ lecture, because in order to facilitate positive change, sometimes you must look at what’s not working. The key is to look at it in a different way. How about, rather than hate or resist what you find difficult to accept, you nurture it instead?
Because, here’s the thing: the foundation of positive change is acceptance. If you try to facilitate change from a place of non-acceptance, hatred, fear or discontent, then you’re setting yourself up for an uphill battle. Positive, sustainable results cannot rise from a negative start. What do you expect to grow out of soil that is contaminated with toxins? Initially, you might find some growth and progress that rises out of fear-based actions, but it won’t be sustainable. The same negative energy and dialogue will follow you every step of the way until you find that you’re right where you were, regardless of what changes have been made. If you’ve ever found yourself still feeling frustrated or discontent after completing a lofty goal, then you know what I’m talking about.
When you’re ready to facilitate positive change in any area of your life, start by accepting the situation as it is. Better yet, nurture it and offer gratitude for whatever it has taught you. Then, let it know that it’s time for a shift and you’re ready to release it—with love.
Then, proceed with the feeling of gratitude, joy, love, and the excitement that comes from positive change. If you catch yourself acting from a feeling of anger, frustration, fear, or anxiety; back up, slow down, take a pause and realign your course; make changes if necessary; but make sure that your actions resonate with the feelings that propel you toward positive results.
Keep in mind, this takes practice. You may oscillate between feeling frustrated one minute and grateful the next. This is normal. Just keep focusing more of your attention on the way you want to feel. Eventually, the scales will tip to reflect more of what you want, and with that, the experiences of your life will confirm that the power of your awareness can move mountains.
This post originally appeared on my first blog, www.emilyparkinsonperry.com on February 25, 2015.