Make Stuff.

I am in awe of children. Not just because they’re amazing, funny, adorable and (mostly) sweet and kind and wonderful…

But because they are creative geniuses.

They create with reckless abandon: Free. Unattached. No rules. No expectations.

They aren’t worried about whether or not it looks ‘right’ or if anyone will ‘get it,’ appreciate it, love it or hate it.

They just do it because it’s fun. That’s all. It’s just fun.

I want to create like that.

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I have a wonderful idea and it looks beautiful and sparkly and perfect as it sits safely inside my head, and then when I try to bring it out, it looks…well…different. Sometimes it loses all of its luster and charm. Sometimes it’s been slaughtered to oblivion by my own lofty expectations. Sometimes it comes out okay, but looks nothing like it did in my imagination. And sometimes it surprises me and comes out even better.

It can be frustrating, but it can also be enchanting, mysterious, and the closest thing to magic that I’ve ever seen.

I wouldn’t consider myself a naturally creative person. I know creative people. I was raised with naturally creative people, and no, I am not one of them. However, that does not mean that I don’t also possess the possibility of creativity…I just have to work a little harder at coaxing it out. So my point is, everybody has the possibility of creativity. Everyone. Including you. The key is to nurture it, honor it, and practice pulling it out of your head and into the world.

What do you like to do? What do you admire that someone else is doing? What do you wish you could do if you had an unlimited source of time and money?

The fact that the desire is there—whether it speaks to you softly or yells out loud—the fact that it is there at all means that it lives in you; breathes in you; loves in you, and has chosen to be expressed through you.

You’ve just got to open yourself up to receive it, and then release it out into the world.

And yes, there will be fear. You may be too terrified to even approach the possibility of bringing your ideas into the world. But let me tell you something:

It doesn’t matter if you can’t do it well.
It doesn’t matter if it’s been done before.
It doesn’t matter if you’re too old, too young, too big, too small, too busy or too scared…

Do it anyway.
You know why?
Because the joy is in doing it.
The joy is in the process of creating.

Create like a kid;
Make it messy.
Make it bold.
Make it unusual.

Make something that makes everyone who thought they knew you; think twice about how well they really know you.

Who knows what will manifest once you begin? Maybe it will be great. Maybe it will suck. Or maybe it will be better than anything you had ever imagined.

It doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you create because you love to create—you were born to create. And the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Follow your passion and honor what pleases you, because when you do, you’ll unleash your potential and ideas will flow like an open faucet.

Paint.
Dance.
Sing.
Compose.
Bake.
Write.
Sew.
Garden.
Draw.
Cook.
Play.
Imagine.

Make up.
Make out.
Make love.
Make a baby.
Make something.

Anything.

Do it badly or do it beautifully.
For only you or everyone else.
Make it big or make it small.

Most importantly, make it fun.

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You’re Right Where You Need To Be

There will be moments in your life when you feel stuck.
Moments when you feel left out; lost; alone; forgotten.
Moments when there are no ideas, no direction, and no pathways.

There will be moments when you can’t stand the skin you’re in.
Your life may spread before you like a giant, starless sky…vast, dark and empty.
You will want to expand; explode, or implode…anything other than this.

These moments may frighten you.

They might make you question everything you know.
Burn it up. Tear it down. Start all over. Run away.
Maybe you should. Maybe you shouldn’t.
My challenge for you, when you encounters these moments, is to stay.

Just stay.

Sit in the dark for a while.
Maybe even accept it.
Maybe even find relief in the unknowing.
Breathe it in; breathe it out.

Because even though you might not see it yet, something is happening.
Birth is happening. Life is happening. Death is happening.
You’re like a whole galaxy of stars that glimmer and fade and glimmer again.

We sink into the dark so we can experience the exquisite return of light.
Your job is to allow the experience of it; whatever it may be.

And listen.

Listen carefully to the quiet unknown.
Listen to the dark.
Listen to the silence.
Listen to the feeling of being lost.

If you’re listening, you won’t miss a thing.
You’ll catch the next spark just as its being born.
The light will burst out from within.
And you’ll be graced with a new path; a brilliant idea; a fresh perspective.

And you’ll realize that you were never lost.
You are always right where you need to be…
Right here.
Right now.

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Playing the Edge

Every time I teach, I experience fear.
Every time I share my work: fear.
Every time I say how I feel; start something new; end something old—there is fear.

It isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Fear heightens your senses; makes you alert; gives you a pulse you can feel. It brings your awareness into the present moment like nothing else can. The key is to get to know your fear.

Is it survival fear? Truly life and death?

Act. Now.

Is it imagined fear? Unreal outcomes and scenarios living in your head?

Let it go.

Is it expansive fear? Does it stretch, challenge, and help you grow into your power?

Listen up.

Breathe into it. Pause. Breathe again. Move forward, then slightly retreat; forward again; slight retreat. Real growth moves in waves. Play on the edge of your fear—not too much, not too little—just enough to keep expanding.

Step into a new role.
Say how you feel.
Share your work.
Change your course.
Walk away.
Say no.
Say yes.
Ask for help.
Birth.
Death.
Life.

All evoke expansive fear.

And that’s good because expansive fear teeters on the edge of love.

It’s the gateway to something big. The dark before the dawn; the first breath; the last push; the beginning, the end, and the middle.

It’s finally letting yourself be who you are.

If you’re uncomfortable, it’s because you’ve outgrown the space you’re in, and it’s time to expand. Don’t shy away from that type of fear, because it is what teaches you about your own brilliance, strength, dedication and love. It teaches you about you.

Take a tiny step or a giant leap.
Either way, play the edge.

You just might fall in love.

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Photo: Alisa Kozlova

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with gratitude,

e.

A Message For You

I have to be honest; sometimes pursuing your dream can be, well…really, really hard. Even if you know with every cell in your body that you’re doing what you’re meant to be doing, there are still those moments—those moments when you don’t feel capable of handling all that is required to follow your dream.

I’m not sure there’s any way around it; it’s more a process of moving through it—breathing, observing, releasing tension as it rises—and remembering that it will pass. The creative block will pass; the trial will end; the fear will dissolve. And what you’ll be left with is strength. You’ll be left with more strength than you had before, because you made it through one more wave that tried to knock you over.

I recently moved through one of those waves of fear, and just when I was feeling depleted, discouraged and filled with doubt, I got a message…a simple ‘thank you’ that changed everything I had been battling for a few days prior. It’s all I needed to redirect my focus and clarify my intention.

My challenge for you this week: offer a simple thank you to someone who inspires, or offers you support in some way. Perhaps you could recognize someone close to you—someone that you don’t thank often enough. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture—a simple thank you, a kind note; simple recognition.

If you’re on Instagram, I’ve made it super easy to send a little thank you note. I’ve put one up as a photo. If it resonates with you and you’d like to pass it on to someone else, just tag them in the comments. It’s easy, effective and it might just change the course of their day.

And I want you to know:

You’re amazing, and even if it’s not always recognized, you’re doing amazing things every day. The work you’re putting out into the world makes a difference and means something to people you may never meet. It means something to me.

Thank you for doing what you do.

Thank you for being you.

Thankyou

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This is my first official post on this blog, and after weeks and weeks of pulling ideas from my heart, organizing them through my mind, and finally, finally, offering them out into the world, I feel…terrified.

I feel terrified because it doesn’t feel quite ‘finished’ yet.

But that’s just it; creative work is never ‘finished’.

Creativity is always moving, shifting and evolving, so if you’re waiting for some magic moment when you can grab it and say that it is finished; ready; perfect…well, I don’t think it ever happens—not completely anyway.

I think when it comes to creative work; the best you can hope for is ‘enough’. It’s enough. It’s done enough. Good enough. And if you can catch yourself in that space, you had better take the leap before the moment is gone; before the courage to share it slips through your fingers.

How much of your creative work has never been seen by anyone else? And since art is in the eye of the beholder, who’s to say that your work isn’t already perfect to somebody else? Once you offer your creativity out into the world, it doesn’t belong to you anymore anyway. It belongs to everyone, and anyone who lays their eyes upon it gets to own a part of it as they interpret it in their own way.

So if you’re sitting on some creative work or ideas, I encourage you to take the leap. Let it go, and let it be whatever it is meant to be to everyone else.

And here’s the best part: when you release your creative work, you create space for more; and the more it flows through you, the more pure it becomes, and what you hold in your heart will manifest more closely to what you had envisioned it to be.

Don’t look, just jump.

Take the leap.

For one more little boost of inspiration, hop on over to my Make it Manifest Instagram page for a lovely quote by Agnes de Mille.

You’re struggling? Perfect. Here’s why that’s good news.

I know…feeling crappy isn’t usually synonymous with ‘good news’ and when you’re in the middle of it, looking on the bright side of things might make you want to puke. I totally get it. And believe me, I don’t want to be the obnoxious cheerful type telling you that it will all be over soon, or that things will get better, because I’ve been in that dark hole, and the last thing you want to hear is someone telling you over and over again that it’ll all be okay….even if it’s true.

What I do want to share with you is that hanging out on the dark side of things for a while can initiate a pretty brilliant transformation. A lot of magic happens in the dark….budding butterflies, sprouting seeds, ideas that have yet to see the light of day, and of course, baby making, (both in the womb and prior…wink, wink).

My point is this: that black hole that you might visit from time to time isn’t at the bottom of a pit—it’s a passageway that’s leading you somewhere. It’s guiding you toward a stronger, wiser, more compassionate version of yourself. That despair you feel? Its called evolution, baby, and you’ve got to go through it in order to see what’s waiting for you on the other side.

So if you find yourself feeling like you’re stuck at the bottom of a pit, start digging. Ask yourself what’s going on here? Is there something that needs to be released or something that needs to be awakened? What do you need to learn from all of this, and how can you speed up the process of understanding so you can step back into the light of day?

And if you’re in it, like, right now? Don’t feel guilty for it. Give yourself time. Let yourself be angry. Cave into the confusion. Allow yourself to be swallowed up by sadness. And be there for as long as it takes, because you’re in a process of growth, and growth takes time and darkness, and sometimes a lot of tears because you’ve got to release in order to make space for something new.

Don’t shy away from the dark. Jump in; cozy up to it, and start loving yourself no matter where you are, because you’re right where you need to be.

Oh, and get ready, because once you resurface, you are gonna shine brighter than you ever thought possible.

This post originally appeared on my first blog, www.emilyparkinsonperry.com on April 2, 2015.